Better Sex For Men

Tantric vs. Modern Sexuality

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Sex, in this unenlightened world is a taboo subject and, instead of being more open minded, our culture is becoming increasingly right leaning and moralistic as demonstrated by the recent suspension of two middle schoolers for hugging.

As is the case in any repressed society the pornographic industry is flourishing and the internet is overrun with images of sexual depravity, sexual domination and various levels of sexual perversion.
Internet, movie and magazine based pornography center around detached and objectified sexual behaviors where humans have become objects and sex is something to be viewed rather than experienced.

While men’s sexual health concerns are more of a physical nature, women’s concerns seem to be a function of their minds.

Men’s’ concerns:

• Having a soft erection
• Inability to maintain an erection
• Low intensity
• Premature ejaculation
• Prolonging ejaculation
• Performance skills
• Self confidence
• Satisfying his partner
• Male sexual health

Women’s concerns:

• Loss of interest in sex
• Loss of sensations
• Inability to reach orgasm
• Having weak or mild orgasms
• Weak internal muscles due to childbirth etc.
• Sexual health concerns
• Sexual guilt and shame
• Inhibitions
• Fear of intimacy
• Need to be in control

Female loss of interest can arise from being too busy, overworked or from an insensitive lover who doesn’t know how to make you happy. The guilt and shame factor is deeply embedded in our Western culture mainly perpetuated through religion. In the East, the body and all its functions are considered beautiful and natural.

Women’s health can benefit tremendously from frequent orgasms. There is a very big difference between an ordinary orgasm and a Tantric orgasm. Ordinary orgasms, as most of us know them, are of short duration and isolated in the sex organs. Tantric sex orgasms involve the full body, mind and spirit, and last for hours.

There is a much better way for you to enjoy the unequaled energy and passion of sex, bringing a whole new yet ancient dimension. Excellent references for ancient sexual advice comes from the Kama Sutra of ancient India and the Arabic equivalent the Perfumed Garden. We will also call on teachings of the Orient to help us find the joy that much better sex can bring.

Most of these philosophies focus on Tantric sex where sex is regarded as a means of transformation rather than the Western style of recreation where orgasm is the primary and in many cases, the only objective, even though this one-track objective is usually quite insensitive to the needs of your partner. In most cases, as a woman’s arousal cycle is longer than that of her male partner, the ending is quite often unsatisfying.

In Tantric sex, the experience goes beyond the mere sex act and focuses on the experience where there is not a predetermined goal but an ongoing exquisite union of lovemaking that is expressive and intimate and extending this ecstasy where both men and women can experience several orgasms.

Author: Anteros

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